What I'm Wearing

Good morning! Hello! Hope you are doing great and if you aren't well, you are the only one who can change that and I hope you do because guys, it's Friday!

Yesterday's post was one of those that just poured out of me. I didn't sit down and think hmm, I'd like to talk about something mommyish today, what shall it be! Basically word vomit, and then I spell checked it.

Sometimes when I write motherly/parenting posts I hesitate to push publish. I mean, really, who am I to give advice as I only have two kids, they are only under 5 and I'm only 29. However over the last 2 years I hope you have gotten to know me and that the filter on my mouth only works about 25% of the time. This is usually in work settings (although some beg to differ) and when I'm talking to my grandparents, although I've probably slipped a F bomb here or there with them, sorry gram!

Know that when I complain, when I spew at the mouth or when I try to be uplifting and encouraging it comes from a good place. I read SO.MANY.BLOGS and when I come across something that resonates with me I think to myself how happy I am to have read that post, maybe it changed my way of thinking or maybe just lifted me up from the hole I've been laying in for the past few days feeling sorry for myself. Yes, that was a huge run on sentence, I know. Whatever that may be, I hope that maybe you find that in my any of mother/parenting post.

While I enjoying writing a sappy, feel good post I sure do love taking selfies in the mirror every morning for these Friday posts!

This week was a full 5 days or work {BOO!} But next week is a 3 day work week so BOOYA!

 

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SHOES: Converse

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You may have noticed that I wore Monday's outfit a few weeks ago on Thursday but I changed up my shoes, this can sometimes change an entire outfit. I'm really trying to find new ways to wear the clothes I already have before I go bat shit crazy and drop money that should be for other things, IE: the wedding, and spend it on new clothes. 

Yes, I also realize I'm wearing a flannel around my waist and have ZERO intent on putting it on, well maybe in my office because it's freezing in here, but besides that it was solely put on to add a little color and show off my waist, making it appear to look smaller. I will also be headed to the gym straight after work to work on said waist, happy Friday! TGIF!!!

Motherhood is Hard

The lines of motherhood are often blurred between am I a good mom or am I not good enough.

I've found that I often question myself based on things I say or how I react in instances.

Motherhood is a tricky thing and one you will never get right.

You get called a helicopter parent if you hover too much at the playground but then are referred to as lazy for sitting on the bench on your phone. You're judged if you're too "crunchy" or not crunchy enough. Stared at if your car seat is forward facing or eyes rolled at you if it's still reverse at the age of 4.

If you're a stay at home mom your ridiculed for not working by the working moms and the working moms are then talked about in play group, they must not love their kids enough to have someone else 'raise' them. Us unwed mothers get asked if you're still with the 'father', and if you are, the follow up question is always 'so why aren't you married?'

I'm constantly trying to find balance with my my 29 year old self. The one that has friends the same age but not in the same chapter of life. Constantly wondering if the boys are proud of all that I do, all that I juggle. Or quite the opposite, do they think I do too much, or that I'm not around enough.

Every day, every single day, is filled with doubt, insecurities and questions to yourself.

Am I doing this right?

Could I being doing this better?

What do people think of me?

But every day is a new day, one that the past can't be dwelled on but the present can be worked on. We have the options to choose our reactions based on the situations we are presented with. You can choose to be miserable or you can choose to be happy, it's as simple as that. Wake up every morning and tell yourself, I am good mom. Nothing more, nothing less. But believe it, live it. Understand that you have bad days, months and sometimes years. As a parent, this is a race you will never win, but never lose, if you do your best.

Let your actions speak louder than the words you feel like uttering to the old lady at Target. The one that looks at your left hand and then at your cart of children, whose mouths are covered with chocolate and socks that don't match. Do your best at that very moment, no matter how much of a hot mess you may look like on the outside. And remember...

A lion does not concern himself with the opinions of the sheep.

What I'm Wearing

Hey ya'll! It's Friday again and the third What I'm Wearing post! I realize I'm taking selfies of myself with less than par lighting and most likely a few, or more finger prints grace themselves on my mirror, but do we like these? I'm really digging them to be honest! I've been surfing around Pinterest more looking for inspiration that I can pull out of my own closet in hopes that I inspire you to do the same! That made sense right?

This week we started Monday off with no work, hence the off the shoulder top I wore, wahoo! Jer and I had another day off so we rushed and dropped the kids off at daycare and started our day of house projects and drinks on the patio! We headed down to Ferndale and had taco's, hot dogs and beer at Imperial and it was glorious! Then we headed back home and I filmed a new video and worked on finishing my dressing room, which it's finished thanks to the wonderful man that's good with a hammer and nails, Jerek! Room tour coming soon yooo!

The rest of the week was work, work and more work! It's a really a busy time there if I haven't stressed this enough by now. I'll spare you the boring automotive talk but I'll be traveling soon in September, October and November so I'm trying to make sure the home front is my main priority lately, Tracen doesn't do well when I'm gone over night.

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[Here and here are the other What I'm Wearing posts in case you missed them

I'm getting pretty excited for fall to come, I love pumpkin spiced everything, big huge, chunky knit sweaters, boots and beanies. My face lights up just thinking about it all! Since I work full-time and we have a casual dress code the summer months are hard to dress for to be honest, so the cooler weather is something I don't mind, strictly for dressing for work purposes! Happy Friday folks!

August Goals

Lets cut to the chase here people. It's August 4th and we have goals to talk about!

1. Stay on my Macros/Gym routine- Macros', were about 75% stuck to. I basically am great at work but if the night time or weekends hit me in July, it was a game changer. You live and you learn and you just keep moving!

2. Restart Kayla Itsines plan- MAJOR.FAIL. Like I said, July was hard on me because our calendar was filled with events. I'm for real starting today, the 4th and will be at about 9 weeks when the Pre-ception is which will hopefully give me the results I'm looking for.

3. Finish my dressing room remodel/refresh- I just finished hanging the artwork yesterday. That's a total lie. JEREK, finished hanging everything yesterday for me but it's done and I'm so excited to share it with you soon. Jer even said that the little space came across so nice and he can totally see my vision and the "pins" I was modeling it after! Post coming soon guys!

4. Plan Skylor's 2nd birthday- ugh! He's two and the party was planned. Nothing crazy, just a few people for cupcakes and ice cream. If you missed his birthday video, here it is to watch.

5. Renew license plate tabs & license- I'm late on that train but yes, it's done, I'm just waiting for them to arrive in the mail. Which hopefully I don't get pulled over while I don't have them. BTW, so many bars and grocery stores follow the "if your license is expired, we can't sell to this person rule." RUDE!!!

1. Keep moving- This may sound dumb, but since July was so busy I felt like I was either at work or we were off doing things. While these things were always fun, I felt like I didn't take enough walks, work out enough or do enough physical activity. If we're Fitbit friends you probably noticed! I swear I couldn't get 10,000 steps in if I tried!

2. Make a chiropractic appointment- I've been waiting to try and see if this will help with my migraines and lower back pain and have yet to ever been adjusted. Leave me a comment if you have recommendations in the Metro Detroit area!

3. Finalize pre-ception details- We went over where everything is going to be at my moms the other day but I still need to book a couple things and start printing some signs and getting the little decorations all set up. I want this done by the time Labor day is here because I know those next few weeks before are going to be busy at work and at home.

Giving myself 3 goals for the month and keeping them pretty attainable is key right now when we have so much going on. Happy Tuesday and Happy August! I will have a new video up for you tomorrow (not a vlog) so look for that too!

XO