20 Questions: 5 years old

[SIDENOTE: these are Jerek's karate clothes from when he was this age!!!]

December is almost over and I've pretty much failed at my vlogmas/blogmas goal [such is life!]
Tracen turned 5 on the 21st and it was such a fun day, minus when I got a migraine that didn't go away for almost a week.

Last year I started a 20 questions post I saw on Pinterest so to keep up with traditions here is this years 20 questions answered by my most favorite 5 year old, Tracen!

[You can read last years 20 questions here]

December 21, 2015 || 5 years old

1. What's your favorite color? GREEN

2. What's your favorite toy? GOOD QUESTION, HMM, I LIKE MY STUFFED ANIMAL GEORGE THE MOST

3. What's your favorite fruit? BLUEBERRIES, I LOVE THOSE THINGS, THEY'RE AWESOME!

4. What's your favorite TV show? MAX AND RUBY, I JUST LOVE THOSE GUYS!

5. What's your favorite thing to eat for lunch? LUNCHABLES ON BRING YOUR ON LUNCH TO SCHOOL

6. What's your favorite outfit? A GREEN SHIRT WITH LONG SLEEVES

7. What's your favorite game? I SPY

8. What's your favorite snack? PRETZELS 

9. What's your favorite animal? MONKEY

10. What's your favorite song? TWINKLE TWINKLE

11. What's your favorite book? "WHAT MAKES A RAINBOW?"- I LIKE IT BECAUSE I LIKE RAINBOWS AND COLORS, COLORS ARE PRETTY, THEY ARE DIFFERENT JUST LIKE ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD!

12. Who's your best friend? SKY!

13. What's your favorite cereal? CHEERIOS , NO MILK 

14. What's your favorite thing to do outside? SWING ON THE SWINGS 

15. What's your favorite drink? APPLE JUICE AND LEMONADE

16. What's your favorite holiday? THANKSGIVING-CAUSE WE GIVE THANKS TO EVERYBODY WE LOVE

17. What do you take to bed with you at night? BLUE BLANKEY- BUT YOU LEFT IT AT SCHOOL

18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast?  PLAIN WAFFLE

19. What do you want to eat for dinner for your birthday?  MACARONI 

20. What do you want to be when you grow up? A GROWN UP KID, CAUSE I WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU BUT STILL HAVE FUN

If you read last years responses you'll see some things haven't change! His sweetness is still there and his love for his family is stronger than ever! Hug those kids man, they grow up wayyy too fast!

Printable 2016 Calendar

With 2016 almost here I knew I needed to find a new calendar for my dressing room/office wall. The one I was using was a printable that I found on Pinterest last year. I liked the simplicity of it but for this year I wanted to try my hand at making my own. I was so happy with how they turned out so I figured I would add to my Etsy shop for anyone interested in it as well.

I have mine hung by a clipboard on my wall so it's easy to change out every month but you could easily frame it and use a dry erase marker to cross off the days. The boxes are not really big enough to write notes but that is not what this calendar is for. I have a planner in my purse for that, this one is for quick references on what day it is and as a decoration to my gallery wall. It is not meant to be written on but if you would like to, go for it!

You could also attach this to your cabinet at work or fridge by a magnet. One of my favorite months is April. No it's not my birthday, it's our wedding month! I thought the couple under the umbrella was cute and had a wedding feel since we are getting married in April so I thought it was fitting. Printables are great because you can print them on regular basic paper or take the PDF files and have them printed at Kinkos, Staples, etc on nice card stock, the option is up to you!

Don't forget to follow along on Instagram because I plan on adding more printables along the way. From time to time I'm going to have 'free printable days' where for 24 hours I open them up to print for free and you don't want to miss out on that do ya!

Happy 5th Birthday Tracen

Keeping it short and simple today because I have a birthday boy I need to eat ice cream with!

5 years old, how is that even possible! I've been feeling really emotional lately about this number so you can just watch the short video I made for his birthday instead of listening to me cry about how grown up he is! If you haven't read his early arrival birth story you can read that here, an unexpected but much anticipated early Christmas gift!

I also suggest watching his 4th birthday video maybe first for a bunch of throw backs as well! You can watch it here.

If you share a December 21st birthday with Trace, happy birthday!

Motherhood and Friendships

High school is different than college and college is different than parenthood.

Acquaintances are nice to have but friends are even better. 

I've had a wide range of friends in my life for as long as I can remember. In high school I never felt clumped into a category. I had friends I played soccer with, friends in band, theater, choir and cheer. Friends that didn't play a single sport, friends that liked to stay in and not go out on a Friday night. I had friends still from elementary, friends from other schools and friends that went too church.

In college I still held onto some friendships from high school, but as some started to fade new ones grew and blossomed. There were many times friendships started over, rekindled and revived simply by a course of events, a communication barrier that was broken and then fixed.

Then there are others that faded further into the realm of darkness. There's been a few times where I wish I would have stepped back, and fought harder for friendships because like all things in life, some things are worth fighting for. Without dwelling on the past I've learned that like high school and college, life after parenthood will change too. 

After graduation you are faced with the ever revolving question of "so what's next?"

It's a question I consciously have to make sure I don't ask others, that one question haunted me for many years. As I slaved away at a tanning booth, office job and a restaurant, all at once, I saw friends landing "real jobs" and it was a constant reminder that I still felt lost in the post college tornado; desperately wanting out.

I've since landed a job that I currently call my career so that question no longer weighs on me.

Having kids before majority of my friends did though. You will find many meme's that say things like "want to know who your true friends are, have kids." While I believe this is semi true I think it really depends on where you are in life.

When I had Tracen I was 25 and most of my friends were either single, just getting engaged and still going out a ton. It was lonely on my end. I was at home most nights, not making great money and if people called it was 10 minutes before they were doing it.

I needed things to be scheduled, a time frame to follow, to allow me to coordinate who will watch Tracen. No one understood that, no one but Jerek. I remember many nights crying to him, wondering if things would ever change. Then one day things just got better. I started understanding that some nights people weren't calling me not because I had a baby but because they too were just staying at home watching Netflix. I started making sure I reached out as well, planned things and kept in touch.

Friendship is a two way street. You are not allowed to each give 50%, you must both give 100%.

Now at 29 with two kids Jerek and I do our best to each go out with friends while the other stays home. We rely on family 100% for date nights so we make those count. Our friends stop by and hang out for a bit to see us and the boys and catch up. While they may never realize how much it means to us, it truly does. We may be wiping someones ass but your 30 minute stop ins are like a breath of fresh air!  We try and make trips to friends house when we can, we plan brunches, cider mill and shopping trips. We put in the effort to see each other and while some months are harder for me to keep in touch than others, I know that my girlfriends understand and thats why my friendships I have currently are strong.

Perhaps you just had a baby and are feeling stressed, remind yourself that it's better to have 4 quarters rather than 100 pennies when it comes to friends. Find your people and put in the effort, no matter how busy you think you are, no matter where you are in your life, make the effort, find your village.

The best way to read blogs

Years ago I discovered blogs. I had no idea what they were to be honest, I just thought it was cool that I had Googled 'how to ____' and I found real life answers. If only years ago I had known about Bloglovin.

Back in college I use to bookmark all the blogs I would find and when I remembered I would check back in. I found it stressful though because I would always be "behind" on all the post and subsequently would end up not reading them anymore.

Three years ago I was in the process of doing research on how to start my own blog when I stumbled upon the wonderful site/app called Bloglovin.

What is Bloglovin you ask? It's a tool for you to keep up with blogs! A way to manage all your feeds in one place! You can follow ANY blogger {whether they are signed up on it or not}. It's a brilliant tool and one for the OCD organizational junkie like myself.

No more bookmarking blogs and forgetting to read them, Bloglovin keeps everything in one place for you. You can set reminders when new posts go up to have an email sent to you daily or weekly. If you ever find a blog and they don't have a Bloglovin button that takes you directly to there page you can still follow them it just takes one extra step. You will need to go to Bloglovin yourself and search there blog name and then add to your reading list. Most bloggers have a Bloglovin button though you may just not know it! They are either a heart, a plus sign or a 'B' icon (mine is a heart which is their old icon I believe.)

Recently they also have made it available for you to install a widget making it even easier for people to follow and get emails sent directly to them if they'd like.

You can also save posts you want to later and share posts with others to read.

You can also discover new blogs on the site by checking out the EXPLORE tab in Bloglovin. From time to time I go through my list and unfollow blogs that no longer post or that I have lost interest in. Refreshing your reading list is good to do and allows you to clean house and discover new bloggers at the same time.

This is mine, so if you clicked on it, then you would be taken to my blog via Bloglovin and have the option to press FOLLOW and I'd be added to your Bloglovin list. It's easy to create an account and you don't have to be a blogger yourself, it's a simple way to keep everything in one place.

Most of the blogs I read I also follow elsewhere, Instagram, Facebook or Youtube so I usually see when they post on other forms of social media. However when I'm busy at work and not online for many many hours I turn to Bloglovin to keep me updated. I mean, I NEED to know if Little Baby Garvin is pregnant again ya feel!

So sign up for Bloglovin here and then add me to your reading list! You can always find me updating on Instagram and Facebook too if you aren't feelin another user name and password combo!

How to raise your second child better

People always say you shouldn't compare one kid to another. They will always be different. Tracen and Skylor are almost exactly 2.5 years apart and I'd like to think I parent them exactly the same. The truth is I don't.

Since Tracen was our first and with about .01% of our friends having kids I basically winged the hell out of everything. I walked into Target and legit just scanned stuff that looked like we would need to take care of a baby. I didn't look at reviews, didn't ask any other moms and barely took the stroller for a spin around the store before registering it. This is an absolute result as to why I hated almost all of the baby stuff I had with Tracen. When I found out I was pregnant with Skylor, I researched and read every single review there was. People would have thought I was a first time mom.

The differences between Sky and Trace begun the day I gave birth to Skylor.  Their births could not be more different and the days after were 100% opposite as well. {Here are Tracen and Skylor's birth stories if you haven't read them.}

Tracen never latched on so I made the decision to strictly pump. And pump my brains until I couldn't any longer I did. That shit is EXHAUSTING. With Sky I tried much harder with nursing and was able to stick with it longer but it was still a struggle and I still ended up pumping all the time. With Tracen he slept in his crib from day one and we WOKE him up to eat every three hours (dumb dumb dumb!) With Sky we bed shared and co-slept and we fed him only when HE woke up (hello 5 hour stretches of sleep from about week 2!)

With Tracen we made him a different meal other than ours every time he ate, with Sky he eats what we eat and eats EVERYTHING IN SIGHT. With Trace I wore him a hand full of times with Sky he's constantly strapped to me. I was the one that put Tracen to bed from the beginning and 99% of the time I still do or he has a complete, over the top meltdown. With Sky, we take turns but most nights Jerek puts him to bed. On the nights that I do theres no fight from him, just hugs and him BEGGING me to put him in his bead.

If you talk to parents that have more than one child most would probably tell you this is normal. You learn tips and tricks from the first one and swear you're going to do things differently the next time around. The problem I have is when people say that they are going to raise them "better."

The difference between the two shouldn't be measured and 

compared in a way that they are the same, because they are not. 

You should do things deferentially to make things work cohesively with your growing family, not because you think you eff'ed it up with the first one but because you are constantly learning. No one can quite say they know what they are doing their first time around, even if you are Jamie Grayson or Michelle Duggar.

I have no regrets with the way I've raised Tracen, we get complimented DAILY on how polite and respectful he is. Although meals and bedtime are a struggle we're working on it! I knew with Skylor that I wanted to change these two areas and for good reasons. Not because I wanted Sky to be the 'better eater' or the 'better sleeper' but because I've learned things from the first time around. I cringe when I hear people talk like this, as if you made a mistake with your first and are trying to redeem yourself or something?

Parenting is like being in school 24/7. You learn things in your freshmen year and apply them to your sophomore year {or hopefully you do.} You are constantly studying for the next test they are going to pull on you, cramming late night for an exam and you always have to be on your toes in case they ask you things like 'why don't you have a wiener like me mommy?' or 'how did I get in your belly?' Cause that shit happens, a lot!

Just remember that if you don't know what the hell you're doing the first time around, you might not the next time around either! Do know that you have the option to start over the next day and work on things. If all else fails, grab a glass of wine and watch these, because I have no idea what I'm ever doing either!

Friday Faves

This Vlogmas/Blogmas business is hard stuff I tell ya! I failed for Day 3 yesterday because we went to the local Christmas tree lighting, which meant the boys were up late and crashed as soon as I hit the pillow.

This weekend we don't have much plans which I'm very excited about. We got our basement flood situation figured out and need to start the cleaning, demoing and redoing of the basement so I guess that is really what our weekend will consist of I suppose.

A while back I use to do Friday round ups but got away from it and I'm not why because I love reading them! So I decided it's coming back and it shall be called Friday Faves. Centered around five round ups of our week, recent Pins I'm loving, clothes I'm lusting over, you get the point. Friday's for us are very chill and very relaxed once we all get home from work and daycare. They are full of pizza and beer and couch snuggles with the boys, I mean they aren't called Pizza Party Friday's for nothing!

1. I've been working on editing a few videos that you will see this month and they are ones I'm really proud of. A photography video, a 2015 video and Tracen's 5th birthday video, look for those coming soon! In the meantime I've been re-watching videos from the last few years and basically just crying. With all the horrible news flying around lately I find it reassuring to watch something that makes me happy.

2. Lately I've been thinking about doing a 30 item challenge like my fellow Michigander blogger, Tieka, is currently doing. I mean, I pretty much wear the same 30 things anyways! I've been de-cluttering my wardrobe and life lately and what better way to start the year off than that.

3. People keep asking me what I would like for Christmas and I really don't NEED anything. Well besides new cookie sheets because the ones we have stress me out. Besides that, nothing really. I do WANT (not necessarily NEED) a new bag for work. I'm really loving any of these below. So family members if you need an idea, here ya go.

one | two | three | four

4. Christmas is like what 20 days away and with Cyber Monday and Black Friday over with I've been working double time trying to get everything ready and shipped out with the tee shirts in the shop. There is still time to order if you missed out, the cut off is Monday the 7th to ensure enough time for printing and delivery. If you don't need for the holidays then you can order whenever you'd like!

5. For the last few years for Christmas we have done the 4 gift rule for the boys (and a stocking.) We do something you can read, something you need, something you want and something you eat. Last year we did a big gift for both of them (the kitchen) as their want and they loved it. This year I'm not really sure what to do to be honest! I've been picking up stuff for their stockings on my many trips to Target but I'm at a lost on the something you want part. I know I should listen to what they say they want but Tracen wants like $150 lego sets that are for 10 year olds so that's out of the question. If you ask Skylor he just wants to watch PJ Masks, ALL.DAY.LONG so unless I want my kid to turn into a vegetable I'm fresh outta ideas! We have so many toys and we've been selling and giving away a ton lately that I just don't know what to get them. Our thought was a 5 in 1 play table like this one but Jer thinks it might be a too old for them still. Leave ideas on what you are getting your kids (boys or girls) and maybe something will spark my brain!

Happy Friday and have a beer for me wontcha!

December Goals

Hello, it's me.

Adele anyone?

Anyway! It's monthly goal time! I've been slacking on the monthly goals the past few months because my to-do list has basically been a million goals of things that need to be done.

I wont recap the last few months because if you've been reading or watching the videos, you basically know what we've been up to! If you didn't see yesterday's post/video, I'm doing Vlogmas/Blogmas where I will be posting a video or blog post everyday until Christmas, so fun right!

Lets get started!

1. Tracen's 5th Birthday- HOW. How do I almost have a 5 year old. I start to cry just thinking about it. If you want to watch Tracen's 4th year video I made for him you can watch it here or below.

2. Try www.everydollar.com: I read on a mom group I'm on that it's like the Dave Ramsey envelope thing but no envelopes. I mean WHO REALLY HAS CASH ANYWAYS! I've tried Minted.com before and didn't like it because I had to change all my transactions and it just took a lot of time in my book. I'm sure I'll report back to you on how it is, or if you have used it before/do use it, comment below and tell me the pros/cons, I'm all ears!

3. Do 1 class a week at gym: I recently kicked LA Fitness to the curb and joined Lifetime Fitness on a crazy Cyber Monday deal. This gym is further away but I mostly did it because they have TONS of classes, sports and open swim/gym for the boys. Not to mention they can be in the kids area for 2 hours so I can get a good work out in, shower, blog, edit, whatever I want, it's like a built in babysitter! Still trying to get Jer on board but maybe when he sees we aren't home for hours and how much he misses us he'll join, Hint Hint ;) You are probably thinking what is ONE class at the gym going to do, but I plan on still doing a normal workout at the gym other days, I just want to push myself into trying new things and classes is something that always intimidate me but usually push me the hardest! Plus Lifetime has AMAZING classes to choose from!

4. No booze till New Years: I've done this many times over the last few years and it's worked out GREAT! I've been indulging in too much good beer and wine after dinner every night. We have this habit of grabbing a beer (or two) and watching Netflix till well past midnight and then are mad at ourselves for staying up so late. Lets be serious, we don't need to be drinking the extra calories with a wedding in 5 months.

5. Book flights for Mexico: I've been watching the flights and since they are during Spring break they are a little higher than I really want so I'm trying to work with my travel agent and find the perfect deal. My mom said that she read 56 days out is the "sweet" spot to book but there is NO WAY IN HELL I'm waiting less than 2 MONTHS to book flights. That just sounds stressful! I've heard to also wait till after Christmas/New Years so I might do that as well.

December is about to be over before we know it so make sure you are enjoying the time with your friends and family and not rushing through the motions during this crazy busy season!